Free Printable Father’s Day Cards For Nerds & Moms!

FathersDay (1)I used to celebrate Father’s Day. I would give my dad small things I made in school, cards, little trinkets. One year in college I got him sea monkeys. The kind that you grow yourself, they become little creatures and you keep them on your desk. I thought that presents were bandaids and reasons to be happy, which is what you think when you’re a kid.

I have a new reason to celebrate Father’s Day, I have in-laws who are funny and nice and I have my husband who will one day be the best father, but every year I celebrate my mom on Father’s Day, which is why I have included a card just for moms. There’s a reason, which you can read all about below, but for now here are some printable Father’s Day cards for nerds and mom’s who play the role of dad and mom:

 

Why I Celebrate My Mom on Father’s Day:

It wasn’t until around 23 when I realized there was a reason for my father’s actions. It’s never easy to admit yourself or anyone that your parent has a mental illness/personality disorder, it’s embarrassing…but you know what…so is being dragged up the stairs by your hair and your t-shirt because you got a B- on a paper, so is spraining your wrist playing softball and having your dad tell you to suck it up and that you were embarrassing him as you fight off tears and then your coach calls the school administration because she is concerned, so is finding pictures of women who aren’t your mother on your family computer and having to try to explain it to your 7-year-old sister, so is coming home from school to a old trunk with a note that says “you’re going to military school” because you got a B in math, so is standing in line at the Bursar’s Office because your father has sworn up and down that the college you worked your ass off to get into was paid for with your college fund, but he actually spent it on women who weren’t your mother.

He told me that I was his least favorite, I was a failure, I was worthless, and my mom got even worse. It wasn’t until I was in the car with my father and he sped up his car to pull into a gas station just to stop short as he unbuckled my safety belt and I flew into the dash, that was the moment I gave up completely. Many nights I slept with a knife under my bed because I didn’t feel safe. Sometimes I dared him to hit me in the face instead of just toss around and accost my mom and I, that way I would have evidence and could call the police, forcing him to leave. I knew I had to leave and I did. Then my sisters and my mom did as well. Now, he only calls to tell us he will never ever talk to us again, that he hates us…or he calls to tell us that he’s going to kill himself or find my mom and hurt her. I learned at a young age that you can literally kill everything you are trying to save someone else. I don’t think that’s a lesson you should have to learn at 23.

People will tell you “it could be worse” and it can–but that doesn’t make your pain any less substantial. People will tell you to get over it, but what they don’t realize that your most powerful relationships (or the lack there of) shape who you are as a child into adulthood, and finally (and arguably, most disgusting), people will attribute your toxic parent’s attributes to you, they will tell you that any disagreement or conflict you have with them can be written off bad “behavior” and that you use your childhood to as an excuse. They are dead wrong. Stand your ground, if “bad behavior” is standing up for yourself and that is finally something you can do after years of not being able to, do it…and make no apologies. Especially because people that have something to say about your family and childhood when they know how challenging it was, are terrible, disgusting people to begin with.

Over the winter, I saw a Pantene Pro V commercial that featured NFL players doing their daughter’s hair. They insinuated that girls that have present fathers that spend time with them grow up to be better in all kinds of ways. I completely reject this notion. Maybe our moms just worked that much harder! I am not the only person in the “no/not great dad” club, countless people are, including the President of the United States. My sisters and I all have degrees, we are all with great, driven men, and we all work hard and continue to advance in our careers. In fact, I just got an amazing new position that is a huge, HUGE step up for my career and my family. This is because of my mom; she took the worst of it from my dad so that we didn’t have to. She is responsible for all of my best qualities–her compassion, her drive, her work ethic, her unrelenting nerdiness—these are all things that inspire me.

So, if you don’t have a father for whatever reason this Father’s Day, know I’m thinking about you. Also, celebrate your mom today if she is in your life. She deserves it.

 

Sugar, Spice, and Everything Nice…

When I was a little girl my mom drilled it into my head that I was never allowed to use the fact that I was a girl as an excuse. There was no excuse–why of course, I should be one of the only girls in the advanced math class, learning to ice skate with hockey skates? no problem, earning one of my high school’s only scholar-athlete scholarships–absolutely—why does it have to go to a boy?

This explains why I spend the majority of high school with bruised legs (I played a lot of soccer), studying like failing was never an option, and the amount of guys in my college classes never intimidated me. It turns out businesses degrees aren’t exclusively for men after all! Both my sister and I have one!

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Little Miss Copeland Busting a Move!

My mom was one of the only female corporate lawyers at her company in the 80’s…which was a big deal. It was an even bigger deal that she beat out a lot of guys in her law school to grab the top spot in her graduating class. Even with all of her amazing credentials, she’s still had to deal with hurtles—as most girls and women do.

It stings to work so hard to know your male counterparts make more money, or when you’re in high school and the football team gets new uniforms even though your soccer team has an exponentially better record from season to season. At the end of the day, I think the best thing we can do for our friends, daughters, students, and little girls everywhere is to empower them to be strong, capable women—because smart capable women are a¬†force to be reckoned with.

So moms, mentors, teachers, and friends, I encourage you to share this video with your daughters. If young girls know their potential is limitless, there is no reason they can’t be wildly successful and this video demonstrates that. Plus, I loves me some women in STEM, H-dog, the Notorious RBG, and my entire women’s world cup team!

 

When young girls participate in behaviors like gossiping, name calling, etc., that means they have negative energy that could be better spent on positive things and feeds into a stereotype that translates into adulthood. I know girls my age and younger (and sometimes older) who think they are grown and “accomplished”, but their attitude and their affinity to be snarky and make other people feel small proves otherwise. Imagine what could happen if girls and women stopped with the negative energy and replaced it with achieving goals while smashing negative stereotypes.

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The more we encourage young girls and women to break glass ceilings while busting stereotypes, the more our culture will have to change to accommodate things like equal pay, representation in STEM jobs, and much–much more! Let’s teach our daughters they can do anything, from running the country to becoming the first African American principal ballerina! It’s been a long time coming for so many of these things!